Why is she angry. The girl is angry
If a woman is angry, then she is not only wrong, but also knows about it.
Erich Maria Remarque
Why is the woman angry?
You lied to her.
You may have lied to her.
You definitely lied to her 10 years ago.
Because you are you
Every action we take has its cause and effect. After all, we won’t go, just to do nothing, rob a bank, get drunk in a zyuzyu, or to a school friend Svetka, who is still not indifferent to you.
The lack of money and the unwillingness to earn it honestly can push us to rob a bank. In order to get drunk in the trash and bawl good old songs from the heart, like: “Oh, frost-frost!” in general, almost nothing is needed, except for the realization of the fact that today is Friday. Yes, and a very weighty argument in favor of drinking can be accidentally dropped: “And for a long time we didn’t all get together”, “And Kolya’s son was born!”, “Vityok, your mother, I haven’t seen you for a hundred years!”.
As for Svetka's school friend, here, I believe, old memories can jump into you, how they pulled the girl by the pigtail and gently held her knee, while she looked at you with her huge loving eyes. However, you can remember about Svetka even after parting with your next mamzel, and after robbing a bank, and, of course, after you drink alcohol in zyuzyu and turn into real estate.
There is a reason for our every act, thought or action. True, sometimes this very reason is incomprehensible even to ourselves.
This is all to the fact that looking at some women, it sometimes seems to me that they themselves do not understand the reason for their anger or anger. Or they do not want to recognize a very obvious fact.
Let's try to figure out what pushes a woman to anger. Why sometimes such a sweet and tender face instantly turns into a grimace of an imp. Metal sounds in the voice, and thunder and lightning sparkle in the eyes. It’s also good if she doesn’t have a rolling pin in her hands at that moment.
Loneliness
This is the first reason that comes to mind. Single women are most often angry and irritable. The reason for this, in turn, lies in several factors. First, in nature.
By nature, a woman is a store of energy, which she takes from the space around her. I ate ice cream - my mood rose, stroked the kitten - it warmed my heart, bought a new blouse, and in addition to the blouse and shoes - I generally fell in love with the whole world.
But it is not enough to accumulate this energy, it still needs to be given to someone. As a rule, in the role of "consumers" are the people closest to her: her husband and children. She gives them inspiration and energy. Accordingly, at the same time, she herself “discharges” and the process begins anew. And if a woman has no family, she has no one to give her energy to. And this leads to the fact that a woman becomes aggressive, nervous and irritable.
At the same time, subconsciously realizing that something is wrong in them, some girls are looking for at least someone who could be taken care of and energized. They give birth to children from strangers (if only there was a child), they give birth to thirty-eight kittens, dogs, guinea pigs, rabbits, etc., and also show excessive concern for the people around them (especially men). The older a woman becomes, the more energy she accumulates, and provided that there is no one to transfer this energy to, the more irritable and grumpy she becomes.
Secondly, it is an acute feeling of hopelessness, even fear.
Many women experience these feelings after failed relationships with the opposite sex, the breakdown of a marriage, and dissatisfaction with life in general.
They feel like strangers in this world. There is no longer a decisive and loving man. There is no reliable shoulder to lean on. Everything has to be done by yourself. And the realization that such a state can last until death is depressing. Their hands drop, the sparkle in their eyes disappears, and more and more often the evil comes out of their mouths: “All the men are goats!”. I think it’s not worth saying that the attitude towards men, and towards women (mainly envy) of such a representative of the beautiful half of humanity is appropriate.
There is only one thing I can advise to such women. In no case do not turn into a slob! Take care of your inner and outer beauty! Find time to relax, do not get hung up on work. Believe in yourself, and a collector will pass along your street! After all, all ages are submissive to love!
The girl doesn't know what she wants
By their nature, girls mostly live with emotions and feelings. They do not like introspection, excessive logic and often tend to change their minds.
As a result, a woman often does not know what she wants. Under the influence of Dima Bilan's song, today she may want one thing, and tomorrow, after Metallica, something completely different. And this uncertainty often lands men in the brain.
He does not understand how this is possible. His logic is incapable of digesting it. For him, yes means yes. No means no. And all sorts of “yes no, probably in general it’s hard to say” - they just don’t fit in my head.
As a result, the woman begins to get angry, defending herself with phrases like: “You don’t understand me.” After all, for her, such behavior is quite natural. Well, can a woman change her mind, after all?! Moreover, quite often a girl does not say directly what she needs. This behavior also leads to excessive anger towards a man who is always straightforward and will always take a woman’s flirty with hostility: “Don’t you know yourself?”. Hence the mutual resentment and anger.
Lack of sex
A woman is pushed to moral breakdowns and anger by the lack of regular sex in her life. Even Uncle Freud in "Essays on the Theory of Sexuality" talked about the direct dependence of a woman's behavior on the presence of sex in her life. If he is, everything is fine. A woman purrs like a cat and sings songs cheerfully, and if there is no sex, then this is fraught with many problems, both psychological and physical. The behavior of a woman often becomes neurotic, and she herself becomes angry, arrogant and bitchy. No wonder they joke that there is no worse beast than an unsatisfied woman. There is some truth in this joke.
Many girls to see in their house - to the good news.
To see a girl of pleasant appearance in a dream for men means big expenses.
Kiss her - to unexpected and joyful events that will surprise you.
A very young girl with a fresh blush on her face, who you dreamed about, means that you will have a pleasant meeting with a nice person who will significantly improve your mood.
An ugly girl that you dreamed of portends a violation of the normal and calm course of your affairs or lifestyle. Sometimes such a dream portends obstacles in business.
A sick girl in a dream is a harbinger of bad news from a loved one. Perhaps one of your loved ones will get sick, which will upset you very much.
dancing girl pleasant appearance in a dream - for a love date or good news.
To buy or catch a girl in a dream is a sign of promotion, to a prisoner - release, to a sick person - recovery to the rich - a benefit.
A distressed girl (or crying) in your dream - to contention between lovers or partners.
A mother to see a blooming young girl in a dream portends good news from her children.
Being a girl in a dream - for a woman - is a harbinger of a pleasant pastime, which can be fraught with consequences for her, which will not be slow to affect her reputation.
For a man, such a dream is a sign of ill health.
For people of creative professions - a surge of inspiration.
See interpretation: lady, freak.
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Dream Interpretation - Girl
If you see yourself in company with a girl, a dream portends failure in some important business for you.
Unfulfilled promises made to loved ones will upset your affairs and add worries to your already difficult life.
If you see attractive girls, you will probably be disappointed in your life friend, rush in search of adventure and suffer a financial crisis.
Seeing a girl pale as a shadow in a dream - a sick person will appear in your family.
If you see yourself as a girl in a dream, this is an omen of problems and a nervous crisis associated with them. But for a single man to see himself as a girl is very favorable. Such a dream predicts a career related to acting talents.
Interpretation of dreams fromDo you feel that your wife is constantly in suspense? It is better to try to figure out the cause yourself than to resort to third-party help, recommends Diply.
By identifying the root causes of her anxiety, you can mitigate the stress.
You are not the first to be in this situation. Experts have identified 15 main reasons that create tension in relationships.
1. You don't talk to each other.
Undoubtedly, you communicate with each other. But when was the last time you had a good conversation?
If all you're talking about is obligations tomorrow or how hard your day was - you're probably stressing her out.
Spend some time together and just have a casual conversation.
2. You don't change. At least the way she wants.
How many times have you discussed household chores? How many times have you made a commitment to do your best work?
No wonder she is annoyed, because you are not making any effort to fulfill the promise.
3. You don't ask the right questions.
Undoubtedly, couples communicate, but basically, the conversation is about obvious and everyday things.
You don't want to try to find out more, but you do want to know what's going on in her head.
If you don't know what she thinks and feels, then how will you be the best husband for her?
4. You don't support romance!
You are interested in each other when you are in love. But after a few years, you will have to make more efforts to maintain this excitement and interest in each other.
Special dates, gifts, special moments and surprises - it never gets old.
5. She is the only one who cooks.
Every family needs three meals a day. It's great when you can just sit back and have someone cook for you all day, and even set the table.
No one will force you to create culinary masterpieces. But you can cook something very simple to distract your wife a little from the routine of daily cooking.
6. You don't clean.
It's not that hard to keep track of things. You can just put the scattered things in their places, dirty dishes put in the dishwasher to keep things looking neat and tidy.
The process of cleaning the house is also important. From time to time it is necessary for someone to vacuum the house, and for someone to wash all the housing with cleaning products.
But if you nevertheless divided the work unevenly, this leads to another stress.
7. She feels like a single parent.
Your children have two parents, so it makes sense that you should divide your responsibilities evenly.
If child care is completely thrown on one partner, especially when there is a second one who is constantly resting, this creates dissatisfaction and stress.
8. She doesn't feel cared for.
When was the last time you asked your wife what movie she would like to see or where she would like to go for dinner? Everyone needs love and care, and chances are your wife isn't getting it the way she used to.
Make an effort to show her how much you appreciate her.
9. She needs time.
We are all familiar with the feeling when there is not enough time in the day to do everything planned.
You can help her by finishing what she is already doing. Or free up your schedule a bit and help her with something. She will definitely be grateful to you for this.
10. She needs space.
Everyone knows how important it is sometimes to just lock yourself in a room and be alone. If you have children, the constant noise is very tiring, and sometimes you just need to get some rest.
You can also give some free time and space to your wife.
Take the kids for a walk while your wife can relax a bit in the bathroom and read a book.
11. You have the wrong priorities.
Many men give 110% that they come home only to spend the night. If you do this too, trust that your wife notices it too.
When you give yourself completely to work, your relationships at home deteriorate noticeably. Consider whether you are doing enough for the good of your family.
12. You dominate arguments.
Disagreements will come up, that's a fact. In disputes, do you listen to her? Or go straight with your arguments?
When a person cannot solve their problems with a loved one, it only causes discontent and stress.
13. She is responsible for everything.
Your home is sure to have its obligations, expenses, problems, and so on. Of course, someone has to deal with all this. And, as a rule, it falls on women's shoulders.
Don't just be another roommate in the house. Become her assistant, not a hired hand.
14. She is depressed.
You spin in the daily routine day by day. You feel it the same way as your wife.
Chat with her, ask her about your feelings and help around the house. Be a good husband because that's what she deserves.
15. She does everything.
Have you ever experienced the feeling that your wife is constantly busy while you are just relaxing? Unfortunately, it is.
Hello, dear readers. It happens that a mother strongly swears at a child for no reason or a colleague screams just like that. Why does this happen and what could be the causes of aggression in women? Aggression can lead to the destruction of relationships with loved ones and loss of trust. To correct the situation, it is imperative to understand the reasons. That is what we will deal with today.
Situation at home
An angry woman at home is a nightmare for the husband and child. A girl can be aggressive towards a man for various reasons. He does not fulfill her requests, from time to time does not close the tube of toothpaste, does not take out the trash, does not pay attention to her, sits up at work and much more. One little nonsense can eventually turn into a real lump of problems.
That is why it is so important for spouses to talk. If the wife honestly told her husband everything that worries her, then the conflict could be avoided. Here, the main thing is to learn to listen to each other. Perhaps a woman speaks in riddles and it is difficult for a man to guess what is really bothering her. Speak straight.
In addition, a mother may experience anger towards her children. There is nothing wrong with that. Be sure to read the article "". Aggression should not be splashed out on the child. But it has a place to be with a woman inside. Because of this, many begin to consider themselves a bad mother. No. It's not like that at all.
Children make noise, ask the same questions, break and spoil things, do not obey, act up. All this can easily bring even the calmest mother to the handle. There is no need to accumulate such emotions in yourself. They need to find a way out. Just not for a child! Remember this. We will discuss ways to release aggression with you a little later.
At work
There can also be a million reasons for aggression in a woman at work. The boss himself does not understand what he wants, colleagues substitute and do not want to work, deadlines are burning, clients are tormenting, she does not have time to do anything. There is always enough stress in the office.
It is very important to learn to abstract from situations that you cannot influence. To be outside of all this. Outbursts of anger only exacerbate the situation and can escalate it to the limit. Even in a dispute, when one of the opponents begins to raise his voice, the discussion turns into simple swearing, where people do not hear each other.
Work is just a part of your life. It is worth remembering that you will come home, and the negative will remain with you. And you will bring it to the family. How often does it happen that the boss yelled at his assistant. She cannot answer him because of her subordination. But when a girl comes home, she easily takes her anger out on young man, mother or sister.
The workflow itself can sometimes be a source of anger. When something doesn't work out for a person, you have to redo it several times. One of my friends suffered at work because she was doing a task for a long time and painstakingly, and then it turned out that all this was no longer necessary. You have to throw away all your work and do something new. At first, she was terribly angry and lost her temper. But over time, I learned to abstract and just do my job. She continued to do it well. But she no longer treated her as something close to her heart. And the work was not affected and saved the nerves.
If you have bouts of anger at work and you don’t know what to do about it, then the article “” will be very useful to you. Some thoughts can help you correct the situation and become more calm.
root of evil
It also happens that a woman behaves aggressively for no apparent reason. This is wrong. Many attribute such outbreaks to women's days. Yes, the level of emotionality goes off scale, tears flow on their own, you blush and turn pale for no reason. But there is a reason behind it all. Read the article "". Perhaps it will be extremely useful to you.
There is always a reason, simply, often we do not see it or do not want to recognize it. It is very difficult to get to the bottom of what is happening. But it is extremely important if you want to solve the problem.
Aggression sometimes carries old grievances and unresolved situations. Sometimes we don't want to go back to the past. It was very painful and hard, so the situation is forgotten and closed for discussion. But it is past grievances that betray aggression and anger today. And you can cope with this only by getting rid of the ghosts of the past.
One of my acquaintances was terribly angry when someone was late for his meeting. This anger went to extremes. At some point, it became difficult for him to constantly endure such anger. When we talked with him, he told how one day his mother forgot to pick him up from the children's camp. He had to stay one more day and spend the night in the leaders' room. It was the feeling of being abandoned and forgotten that he experienced every time someone was late. But as soon as he remembered this, talked to his mother, the problem was solved. Now he does not experience even minor discomfort if a person lingers a little.
Remember that the reasons can cover very deep. Finding her is not so simple and easy. You can lose your temper because as a child you were forced to read poetry from a chair, or your mother constantly fed you boiled onions. Search where you would not even think.
What can be done about it
Anger attacks are easy to control. You just have to want to fix it. To be honest with you, breathing and counting to yourself helps a lot. There are millions of breathing techniques today. I advise you to choose the most suitable one and try it in practice. Don't be afraid to look stupid or incomprehensible. This is not your concern. If you feel a rush of aggression, stop for a second. Start breathing and count to yourself to five. After you calm down, think about why you gave such a reaction. What words or deeds. This will help you react differently next time.
In addition, yoga and meditation help a lot. In the evening, before going to bed, just half an hour. Find a good course that is not too physically demanding. You should rather look for more soothing and soothing exercises. Remember that not all physical tasks are suitable for everyone.
There are sedatives. But this, it seems to me, is the most extreme and undesirable way out of the situation. In this way, you simply push the problem away, but do not solve it. The effect will be short-lived and will not rid you of the true cause.
The music is very relaxing. If you have a favorite artist, great. Don't overlook the calming effect of music. Just a few minutes alone with your favorite song and you are filled with positive energy again. But remember that this is also only a short-term solution to the problem.
Communication with a good man. Surely you have close person who can always put you at ease. A short conversation with such a person can have a favorable outcome. You will speak out, tell about your situation, get rid of negative emotions. Perhaps they will help you look at the situation from the outside and you will see why this happened.
Active sports. Where you can splash out all your negativity. Boxing and other martial arts, swimming, archery, fencing, tennis and more. When you physically give all your best, then there comes a moment of relief. You calm down and can reason soberly. It is at this point that you might think what is causing your inexplicable aggression. Remember that there is no smoke without fire.
I wrote on a similar topic and I think it will be very useful for you to read the article "". If desired, a person is able to solve any problem and understand even the most confusing situation. I hope everything works out for you. Don't be afraid and boldly go forward. Your life is in your hands!
