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Who to pray when parting with a loved one. Prayer at the parting of the mother of God

Yakov Porfiryevich Starostin

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Have you lost the trust of a loved one because of stupid quarrels? Now you do not know what to do so that he forgives you? Want to reconcile with your loved one? There are ways to help you do this at minimal cost. What rites / rituals must be performed in order to make peace with your soulmate?

AT Orthodox culture there are many ways that work to save you from quarrels, restore past relationships, give happiness and harmony. If your loved one really matters to you, you can’t “push around” your loved ones, try to control, impose your will and desires on him. This kind of behavior hurts a lot. male character. And there are two ways out: either he will look for attempts to get away from your "obsessive society", or he will slowly turn into a rag. In order to restore relations after quarrels, you are unlikely to “get off” with prayer alone. But if, after a sincere belief in the possibility of reconciliation, you still make every effort to restore harmony, the chances are much greater. If you decide to read prayers, a prayer to the Lord is the very first and most powerful. She asks for reconciliation, reconciliation, reconciliation is coming.

Prayer for the return of a loved one to the Lord. Text

IMPORTANT! It is necessary to read it if no more than 6 months have passed since your separation. If you don’t know anything about your loved one for more than six months, if he “packed his bags” without a hint of a possible return, then there is practically no point in reading prayers. All feelings "remained overboard", cooled down. To renew them, you will have to use stronger and more powerful magic.

Lord, I trust in you, I raise my prayer to you, I ask you alone. I lift up my prayer at a difficult moment and ask you to return my beloved to me (the name of the person you want to return is indicated here). Lord, do not leave my request (here your name is indicated) unattended, help me return my beloved (here his name is indicated again) to me. Help us to return passionate feelings. My beloved, beloved, you will remain in my heart! Amen!

Prayer to the Lord is read at least 3 times. The environment should be appropriate: silence, your thoughts about reconciliation, reconciliation, reconciliation. You can take a photo in which you are happy, imagine that this happiness can be easily returned.

Often people use not only prayers to the Lord, but also to his helpers - saints, guardian angels. To protect and save themselves from quarrels, girls often ask Fevronia for protection. Sometimes they offer their supplications to St. Peter.

Prayer to the saints to return a loved one

Did you have a big fight? If you need effective prayers, a prayer to the saints Peter and Fevronia will help you. The text of the prayer is as follows:

“Oh, great miracle workers! Peter and Fevronia, called saints of God! I am turning to you now, I trust in your protection, I pray to you alone with a bitter problem. I ask you, holy saints Fevronia and Peter, convey my prayer and request to the Lord himself, ask him for grace for us. Let happiness, harmony, hope and faith return to your relationship with your loved one (his name is indicated here). Help my heart (here your name is indicated) to calm down, to bring tender feelings, to give infinite happiness. Let us be with (name of loved one) together! Amen!".

The specific words of the prayer are not so important, the prayer should sound from the heart, fill it with happiness and harmony. Only in this way will she be effective in reconciling with the man of your dreams.

Prayer for reconciliation to the Lord. Text

Another effective prayer that is addressed to the Lord. Her words are quite simple and understandable to every girl who dreams of returning her loved one, but so far does not know how to make amends for her quarrel.

“Great Lord, I ask! Give me, Lord, strength and faith to ease my suffering. I call on the clouds to be saturated with strong love, and after that, not much rain to fall on (here the name of your loved one with whom you quarreled is indicated), so that this water touches him, gives a desire to meet me again. Lord, let this heavenly cloud of feelings and tenderness show him (again we repeat the name of a loved one) the way to me. Let drops of heavenly moisture revive his heart, and let his soul hear my prayer. I know, Lord, that you will not leave my request, you will help me in a difficult and difficult hour. Thank you for your help!

All about religion and faith - "prayer at parting mother of god" With detailed description and photographs.

Useful prayer! It really gives peace of mind when reading! It is good to read it when you are in conflict with dear person! Always helped me!

It is customary to offer prayers to overcome the quarrel to the Most Holy Theotokos in front of the icon "Softener of Evil Hearts", or it is also called briefly "Seven-shot".

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Buy this icon in a church shop, it perfectly heals overheated hearts and calms emotions, acts as an instructive for those who do not see a way out of the vicious circle of their quarrels.

“Soothen our evil hearts, Mother of God, and quench the misfortunes of those who hate us, and resolve all the narrowness of our soul. Looking at Your holy image, we are touched by Your suffering and mercy for us and kiss Your wounds, but our arrows, which torment You, are horrified.

Do not give us, merciful Mother, to perish in our hardness of heart and from the hardness of our neighbors, Thou art truly evil hearts Softening.

Otherwise, as a refuge and a warm intercession, perhaps you, not vem, but as if you have boldness to those who are born of you, help and save us with your prayers, so that we unstoppably reach the Kingdom of Heaven, even with all the saints we will sing in the Trinity of the One God, always, now and forever and ever. Amen".

If you offer this prayer in the morning and at bedtime, then the person with whom you have a desire to make peace will certainly soften his anger and want to see you.

Prayer for heartache at parting, 3 prayers

After parting with a loved one, we experience heartache. In order to quickly appease her, one should pray to God's Pleasers. The soul will calm down, grief will subside.

Dear ones, you are afraid of the pain of loneliness.

And you are afraid that you will not be able to let go and stop loving.

What if no one else meets?

Parting with those who were sent down for testing, we meet a mutual devoted feeling.

Light 1 candle. Nearby place the icon of St. Nicholas the Wonderworker, Jesus Christ and the Most Holy Theotokos.

Try to calm down in humility.

Yes, you broke up, but the Lord will not allow the worst.

Remove the stone from the soul by repeatedly reading these prayer lines.

Wonderworker Nicholas, Defender and Savior. I am languishing from parting in my thoughts, I am terribly afraid of angering God. Mental pains do not allow sleep, loved ones forever betray. You help me drive away sorrows, strong prayer accept faith. May your will be done. Amen.

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God. In desperate crying, my soul ached, I again got sick of believing in you. The will is suppressed by mournful separation, it seems to me that life is not a blessing, but a torment. Heal me in righteous anger, led me to live according to the Most High laws. May it be so. Amen.

Holy Mother of God, The Virgin Mary. Save me from parting, deliver me from mournful suffering. Let the pain in the soul quickly subside, and the heart will beat in joy. May your will be done. Amen.

Prayers from groaning must be said slowly, endlessly believing in the intercession of Jesus Christ.

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Prayers for reconciliation with a loved one and the safety of relationships from any adversity

It often happens that we, not noticing our shortcomings, manage to find them in another person. We quarrel, find fault and because of this we lose a loved one, and then we understand the bitterness of loss and rush about in search of reconciliation. We live - we hurry, we turn around - we regret! We are sorry for those with whom we parted, we are sorry for those for whom we did not find words to restore relations. Sometimes a small step forward can completely change the future.

When the time comes for quarrels, and such a period is possible in any, even the most cloudless, relationship, it is better to turn your gaze to the side called upon to heal our soul. The Lord Almighty treats his children with understanding and patience, turning our prayers to him with requests for reconciliation, we, of course, will receive calm for our emotions and return our loved one.

Moreover, one cannot do without God's help if the relationship is threatened by storms of witchcraft influence from the outside. It often happens that spiteful critics and envious people, as well as rivals, resort to the powers of magical witchcraft to destroy other people's feelings. You can protect yourself from such influence, without becoming a victim of the fall of witchcraft, by applying strong rites and rituals associated with prayer to the Almighty, the Blessed Virgin Mary and the Holy Saints.

Mother of God - the patroness and intercessor of all lovers

The Blessed Mother of God has always been the intercessor and patroness of the family and loving hearts. It is customary for her to trust her sorrows and prayers to reconcile with those who, voluntarily or involuntarily, were offended. Prayers addressed to the Mother of God will help against quarrels and disagreements with your loved one.

Of course, reconciling with your soul mate is more difficult than quarreling. Now you have to make diligence in order to renew the relationship. But if you do everything as expected Orthodox tradition, then the prayers will achieve their goal, and you will be reunited with those for whom the heart aches and yearns.

It is customary to offer prayers to overcome the quarrel to the Most Holy Theotokos in front of the icon "Softener of Evil Hearts", or it is also called briefly "Seven-shot". Buy this icon in a church shop, it perfectly heals overheated hearts and calms emotions, acts as an instructive for those who do not see a way out of the vicious circle of their quarrels.

Offer a prayer to the Most Holy Theotokos after reading the Creed three times. If you offer prayer in the morning and for the coming dream, then the person with whom you have a desire to make peace will certainly soften his anger and want to see you.

Prayer for the softening of evil hearts.

“O Long-suffering Mother of God, who exalted all the daughters of the earth in her purity and in the multitude of sufferings that you transferred to the lands! Accept our many painful sighs and keep us under the shelter of Your mercy. Otherwise, as a refuge and a warm intercession, perhaps you, not vem, but as if you have boldness to those who are born of you, help and save us with your prayers, so that we unstoppably reach the Kingdom of Heaven, even with all the saints we will sing in the Trinity of the One God, always, now and forever and ever. Amen."

When you offer a prayer for the coming dream, light a lamp or a candle in front of the image of the Virgin. She will be your beacon of hope and the light that will illuminate your prayers with God's blessing.

A powerful ritual to pacify pride and return love

If your quarrel has become so serious that it is difficult to imagine where to start reconciling, then start a reconciliation ritual, addressed to the mercy of the Mother of God. It begins with the fact that three temples are served with the name of a loved one as a reminder of health and put candles in front of the images of the Virgin.

Also, having defended the service in the temple, before the holy images, ask from a pure heart for forgiveness for your voluntary and involuntary offenses. Understand - in order to end the quarrel, you need to recognize the moment that part of the blame for the quarrel lies with your soul. And pride is a grave sin, manage to appease it! Realizing our own responsibility in discord, we will take the first step to ensure that our native person forgave us.

Then you should buy icons with the faces of your nominal Saints in the church shop, respectively, both men and women, on whom the rite of deliverance from quarrels will be read. Put them in the "red corner" next to the images of the Virgin Mary and Jesus Christ, perform a rite of reconciliation in front of these icons. Your patron saints will pray to the Almighty with you.

Important! Nominal icons are bought for those names that were given to you at baptism. Very often, a worldly name diverges from a baptized one, since modern names often disagree with the calendar, and baptize exclusively according to the calendar.

The next step is to start the daily prayer service, where you read the Creed three times. After it, “petitions” to the Mother of God are read three times. Remember that you need to pray with faith in your heart; without sincere prayer, your request will not be heard. Only by diligent efforts can you show your desire for the world.

Prayers of supplication to the Most Holy Theotokos

“O Blessed Virgin, Mother of the Lord Most High, Intercessor and Protector of all who resort to You! Look from the height of Your saints on me, a sinner (name), falling to Your pure image; hear my warm prayer and bring it before your Beloved Son, our Lord Jesus Christ; implore Him, may it illuminate my gloomy soul with the light of His Divine grace, may it deliver me from all need, sorrow and illness, may it send me a quiet and peaceful life, health of body and soul, may my suffering heart die and heal its wounds, may it guide me for good deeds, let my mind be cleansed from vain thoughts, but having taught me the fulfillment of His commandments, let it deliver from eternal torment and let it not deprive me of His Kingdom of Heaven. O Holy Mother of God! You, “Joy of All Who Sorrow,” hear me, the mournful one; You, called "Assuagement of Sorrow", quench my sorrow as well; You, “Burning Kupino”, save the world and all of us from the harmful fiery arrows of the enemy; You, "Seeker of the Lost", do not let me perish in the abyss of my sins. On Tya, according to Bose, all my hope and hope. Be my Intercessor in my temporary life, and about eternal life before Your Beloved Son, our Lord Jesus Christ, Intercessor. Teach me to serve that with faith and love, but to you, Most Holy Mother of God, Blessed Mary, reverently honor until the end of my days. Amen."

Remember that reading the Psalter always has a positive effect on the power of prayers. The Book of Songs of David has psalms to solve any problem, from healing bodily ailments to defeating the enemy, and there are also psalms designed to help reconcile with a loved one. Read the upcoming psalm 10 for a dream, it contains a panacea for softening the cruelty of spouses and lovers who constantly quarrel. Also in this case, Psalms 11 and 35 are added.

Auspicious days for prayers for deliverance from quarrels

If your quarrel is so strong that daily prayer if you can’t remove the quarrel, then select an auspicious day for the ritual from church calendar. On the days of great holidays, especially those dedicated to the Mother of God, the problem of spouses and a couple in love can be solved if you open your heart to God and pray for the gift of peace to two hearts.

Christmas, Epiphany and Easter.
All holidays dedicated to the Most Holy Theotokos: the Annunciation, the Nativity of the Virgin and the Assumption of the Virgin.
The Feast of the Intercession of the Most Holy Theotokos deserves special mention. This holiday is very auspicious for women. On this day, according to tradition, all requests and desires are fulfilled. The Mother of God especially favors married couples and hearts in love.

The days are not considered the most favorable: the Exaltation of Christ the Lord and the Beheading of John the Baptist. These days are associated with many beliefs in people's memory. In order not to aggravate the problem, it is better not to address it in prayers on this day.

The ritual of liberation from witchcraft influence on quarreling people

When there is a suspicion that quarrels among lovers have become the cause of someone's witchcraft influence, then here you need to add a rite to free yourself from magic spells. The first to read the words of prayers from witchcraft, and then a prayer for the pacification of hearts in love.

Prayer from evil spirits

Prayer for Witchcraft

The ceremony begins with reading prayers from witchcraft before the face of Jesus Christ. Then Psalms 6, 8, 45 are read once at a time. And only after a zealous request for the removal of witchcraft influence, they proceed to prayers to get rid of the quarrel.

Psalms in defense against witchcraft spirits:

Psalm 6 - asking God for deliverance from witchcraft.
Psalm 8 - read for those who have suffered evil from demonic forces.
Psalm 45 - is read for the young, to whom the envious and reckless person interferes in creating a family.

This ritual is necessarily accompanied by a service in the temple, do not forget to honor the Lord with your prayer on Sunday. It is impossible, forgetting the way to the temple of God, to beg your petition. To receive indulgence from the Powers of Heaven, one must be a diligent Christian. For your diligence, the Almighty will reward you!

Very strong prayers for mutual love. Love is a fundamental feeling that gives us the strength to create, live, plan for the future and enjoy the present. . The ritual of asking for mutual feelings with a loved one.

Prayers for the return of a loved one and overcoming hardships in love. . The Mother of God is most often in charge of the affairs of lovers, all prayers for reconciliation, the reunification of loving hearts are usually addressed to her.

And the prayer to Peter and Fevronia for the return of a loved one can heal a broken relationship, return the love of spouses if adversity has gathered over them.

How to get over a breakup in 6 steps For yourself and for those who need

In the life of almost every person, sooner or later, parting occurs. In the lives of many - more than once. This is very significant event, since it is only on one side the end of something. More importantly, parting is a moment of choice and the beginning of something new. If the choice is right, it becomes the beginning of a new one, a better life, a truer understanding of love. It was the separation that helped a huge number of people to become adults, loving and happy people.

The theme of parting in full http://www.perejit.ru/main/theydid?id=57 . I have enriched and deepened my experience with the help of highly qualified psychologists and Orthodox priests who participate in the operation of the Perezhit.ru website. This article is the quintessence of our methodology. The article does not replace other articles, but will help you structure and better understand the material.

If the separation has occurred, first of all, you need to take the fact of what happened for granted. If a person is gone - you need to let him go. It is necessary to put an end to those relations that were.

Stories are different. Unfortunately, there are separations in marital relations. Therefore, when I say that it is necessary to put an end to it, I do not say: shut the door tightly, bury the person, erase him from your memory. Not! Often lawful husbands and wives return with repentance, and then they can be accepted. It's about something else. To come to terms with parting means to let go of a person. Recognize his right to such a decision, even if it is wrong. Stop holding it.

Theoretically, it is possible that after some time both of you will change, and a meeting of new you may occur, and you will be able to create new, more harmonious relationships.

But the people you are now couldn't be together. The path you were on has come to this point. And at this point it ended. The person you are now must recognize and accept this.

If you have even a little love for this person, recognize his right to be free. Release and bless him.

Say to yourself, addressing this person: “I let you go! Bless you!"

The cessation of attempts to return a person, the cessation of hopes for his return - is completely necessary condition successful separation. Some cling to a person for months and years. And as long as they cling, they suffer, they get stuck in this state.

Often lovers (especially those suffering from love addiction) break up and converge several times. And the further - the lower the quality of their relationship. They thereby humiliate themselves, their relationships, they reinforce the skills of how not to live, and reduce their chances of building healthy relationships. There is good rule: "Leaving go!"

And believe that your clinging does not increase the love and respect for you of the one you cling to, but quite the contrary.

2. Overcome intrusive thoughts

In most crises, we suffer not from the situation itself, but from false obsessive thoughts about it. "You won't find someone as good as her." "You won't love anyone else." "You will never have children." "It's impossible to love someone like you." “I won’t love anyone like that again” (this is usually for girls aged 15-18), “There is no need to live anymore.” These thoughts hurt us almost physically, plunge us into despair.

Relatively speaking, 10% of our suffering is from the situation itself, from the inability to see loved one, be with him, etc., 90% - from these false thoughts. So, as soon as we overcome these thoughts, we will stop suffering. And you can overcome obsessive thoughts quickly enough.

First of all, we need to recognize these thoughts as an external force hostile to us, which, with the help of deceit, is trying to plunge us into despair and almost kill us from the world. These thoughts are not generated by you! They have come from outside to harm you. To accept a thought or not to accept is in our power. If we accept it and begin to “chew it”, then it becomes, as it were, ours.

What do psychologists of women's and popular psychological magazines advise in such cases? Get distracted. Find an activity that will help you take your mind off heavy thoughts. This is as “wise” as advising a front line soldier to turn away from the enemy so as not to see his nasty face, and do something else. Like, you can't see him, so he's gone.

And what about the fact that just at that moment he will put a bullet in your back?

My advice is clear - turn to face the enemy and fight. This is the only real opportunity to deal with this enemy. A thought is such a thing that neither an exercise bike, nor a swimming pool, nor the fingers of a beautician or masseur, nor a new lover will protect. Thought can only be defeated by thought!

Arguing with hostile thoughts is useless. Some hope, with the help of a discussion with thoughts that overcome them, to analyze something, to judge, to make some kind of decision. In the acute period of the crisis, in the first week or two, no sound reasoning and right decisions are possible. First you need to bring yourself to a healthy, sober state. In a period of acute crisis, we have only one goal - to gain a sober view of things by combating obsessive thoughts.

The only way to defeat false thoughts is to oppose them with true, kind thoughts, clothed in the power of prayer.

To do this, it is necessary, first of all, to constantly control what kind of thought torments you. That's what I call looking the enemy in the face.

Second, to oppose this thought with an appropriate prayer. That is, a prayer, the meaning of which is opposite to the thought that torments at the moment. three or four short prayers enough to “deal with” most of the obsessive thoughts in a breakup situation.

If you are tormented by thoughts of self-pity, thoughts of despondency, grumbling or fear.

Typical thoughts are: “I won’t love anyone else”, “I won’t feel so good with anyone else”, “My life no longer makes sense”, “How can I, poor thing, live now?”. Our worst enemy is self-pity. This pity must be dealt with ruthlessly.

Prayers that are used against such thoughts: “Glory to God for everything!”, “Thy will for everything. Let it be as You please!”

The meaning of these prayers is that we recognize the non-randomness of what happened. We recognize that no matter how painful it is, it is for our good. Thus, we express our trust in God, Who wishes us all the best, and the confidence that this event will serve to improve our lives and our souls. And since the improvement of the soul implies an increase in love in it, it means that it is quite possible that we will still love someone, and with a more perfect love.

If you are tormented by thoughts about the person with whom we are parting, or about the one who “took away” this person.

Typical thoughts: “He is the best, you won’t meet such a person again”, “I can’t live without her!”, “How would I return him”, “Scoundrel! How could he deceive me like that!”, “I hate her, the vile one, for taking him away! How can I get revenge on her?"

If we are tormented by the thought of any person, we kill it with a simple prayer: “Lord, bless this person!”. We invest in this prayer the desire for good to a person.

The psychological explanation is this. The fact is that the essence of obsessive thoughts that torment us is evil, aggression. This is either an insult to a person, or a desire to deprive him of his freedom, tying him to himself against his will, or a desire to take revenge, or a desire that misfortunes befell him for what he did. All this is the opposite of love. And so, when we oppose a good thought to these evil thoughts, the evil thought is defeated.

There is also a deeper level of understanding. If we admit that dark entities are the source of our evil thoughts, then it is clear that evil is their goal. And as a result of such prayer, not just good is obtained, but double good: both you benefit from prayer, and the person for whom you pray. Naturally, such a result of their intervention does not suit these dark entities at all, and they move away from you. Verified by many!

If you are tormented by aggressive thoughts addressed to yourself.

False thoughts: “It’s impossible to love someone like you, you are a loser”, “You are to blame for everything, if only you hadn’t made that mistake!”

Prayer: Praise God for everything! If they are really guilty of something: “Lord, have mercy!”, “Lord, forgive!”.

Prayer "Glory to God for everything!" universal. It contains, among other things, self-acceptance, gratitude to God for the good that is in us.

Penitential prayers: “Lord, have mercy!”, “Lord, forgive!” are pronounced without strain, in an even, impassive tone. If we start acting, we ourselves will not notice how, instead of repentance, we will concentrate on despondency and self-pity: “Oh, how unfortunate I am, have pity on me!”. This will only cause harm. When a person truly repents, he firmly believes that God forgives him, and every minute it is easier for him.

I emphasize: the tone of all prayers must be even, no matter what storm rages within us!

There are a few more rules to keep in mind when praying.

First, you need to control your attitude towards the One to whom you pray. Remember that God does not owe you anything. He is not to blame for the fact that you are now ill. But you, most likely, are largely to blame before Him. Therefore, pray humbly. Only humble prayer achieves the goal. Prayer, in the depths of which there is an offense against God or an impudent demand, will not give anything.

This is on the one hand. On the other hand, do not consider yourself a completely alien, disenfranchised petitioner. You are not addressing an indifferent official, but a merciful Father who loves you. He wants to give you everything you ask for and more.

Secondly, believe that you are being heard, that you can be helped and will certainly be helped. God is omnipotent, He created this world out of nothing. God hears your every word (which you yourself hear), and not a single word of yours is wasted.

Thirdly, it is desirable to know as well as possible the One to whom you are praying. Some people think that God is higher intelligence". But under the definition of "higher intelligence" is quite suitable and Satan. Therefore, if you are close to Christianity, try reading the Gospel to find out what kind of God He is. Just do not visualize God during prayer - this is very dangerous. (Looking at the icon of Jesus Christ does not mean presenting God in front of you, it is safe.)

You need to pray for exactly as long as the attack on you by obsessive thoughts continues. Some will read the prayer several times, and then say: "I tried to pray - it did not help." This is ridiculous. You are sitting in a trench. The enemy is firing at you from all sides. You fire three shots at the enemy. Naturally, the shelling does not stop. In desperation, you crawl to the bottom of the trench, throwing away the machine gun: it supposedly does not help.

Where is the logic here? The force of action must be equal to the force of reaction! When I was in this situation, for the first 5 or 7 days I prayed almost continuously, repeating the words of the prayers thousands of times. By carefully observing exactly what thought is attacking me now, and using the appropriate prayer against it. I held on to my prayer like a drowning man to a lifeline. Naturally, if I let go of the circle, I would immediately go to the bottom.

Therefore - do not be lazy, do not retreat, do not give up! Fight with all your might!

3. Forgive yourself and the other person

Common problems in a breakup situation are positions of resentment towards the other person or blaming oneself. Both positions prevent us from finally recovering.

Another person may be guilty of something before us. However, you need to forgive him, for two reasons.

First, we do not know exactly why it happened, we do not know the degree of our guilt. The mistakes of one of the two can be obvious (drunkenness, cruelty, betrayal, consumer attitude on a material level), and the other is hidden (consumer attitude on a spiritual level, jealousy, disrespect, emancipation). However, the former may be a consequence of the latter. That is why they say that both are always to blame. Each of the two always has their own truth. And you, knowing only your own truth, but not knowing the truth of another, cannot judge him.

Secondly, your resentment binds you to this person, as shackles bind two convicts. By cutting the chain of resentment, you release not only him, but also yourself. And each of you takes with you your piece of the chain - your share of responsibility.

Tell him mentally: “I forgive you!” This does not mean that you approve of what he did or take full responsibility for what happened. No, he is responsible and fully responsible for his mistakes. But he will bear this responsibility himself, without your participation.

If the obsessive thought of resentment continues to haunt you, use the weapon of prayer described above: “God bless him!”

If we blame ourselves, we need to sort out our feelings and separate the rational from the irrational.

Rational - these are the facts of your specific sins: betrayal, rudeness, deceit, jealousy, the wife's desire to rise above her husband, etc.

The irrational is just an inferiority complex, behind which are not facts, but beliefs: “I am bad”, “I am no good”, “I am not worthy of love”, etc.

The rational is cured by repentance. Take your share of responsibility on yourself, refraining from self-justification. Ask for forgiveness from a person - really or mentally. Ask forgiveness from God. Work on fixing yourself to become a different person who won't do it again.

The irrational is an obsessive false thought. She heals with prayer and good deeds. But first of all - http://www.realisti.ru/main/rodit.

4. Benefit, work on yourself

Known common truth: any difficult situation, any crisis is not a "misfortune", but a test. A test is an opportunity sent down to us from above, accurately calculated for our needs and abilities, to grow, to take a step towards personal perfection and a better life. And the opportunity to grow is so important and valuable for us that it would be strange to call it a misfortune. As we grow up, we become happier.

But growth does not automatically follow trial. As said before, a test is an opportunity. If we only feel sorry for ourselves, blame others, lose heart, grumble, then we have not passed the test, we have not grown up. And you have to grow. So the next lesson will be tougher.

To pass the test, you must first of all humble yourself. When you and I, overcoming the desire to lose heart, feel sorry for ourselves and grumble, prayed “Glory to Thee, Lord!” - this was the school of humility. Thanks to this school, we will not be so upset during the next trials. Humility makes us stronger and more patient. Humility is our most valuable "income" from any trial.

Now that the acute stage of the crisis has passed, it is time to soberly analyze the reasons for what happened.

First, what were constituents your relationship, how much love was there, how much dependence, how much physiological passion? From your side, from your partner's side.

Secondly, what were the genuine goals relationships - family, pleasure, mercantile calculation? From your side, from your partner's side. To what extent these goals are worthy of you, do you need such goals?

Thirdly, if the goal was worthy (a real family), then how much you and this person approached for each other and for this purpose? Could this goal be achieved with this person? And did you know him enough to allow the degree of intimacy that you allowed? And what kind of person can achieve this goal? And what kind of person is best for you? What qualities do you lack in order to successfully achieve this goal? Are you an adult or an addict? What harmful and useful habits did you take away from your parental family and from the relationships that preceded these relationships?

Fourthly, if both the goal was worthy and the people worthy of the goal, what mistakes were allowed by you in the process of achieving these goals? What should you do to get better results?

In the process of this analysis, write down on paper everything that you need to change in yourself. Your mistakes that you need to repent. Your shortcomings that should be corrected. Those good qualities that you need to develop in yourself. These records will be your second "income" from this test.

To get the third "income" from the test, put this sheet into action - start working on yourself. First of all, we are talking about inner work. About overcoming addictions, passions, cultivating love, chastity. Such work on yourself will make you a different person.

If you find it necessary to also work on your body, doing physical education is in any case beneficial. Physical training, coupled with overcoming “I can’t do it anymore”, not only makes our body younger and more attractive, but also strengthens the will, which is of great importance for the success of all the affairs of our lives.

It is very important at this stage to put before yourself the right goals for the next period of life. It is the improvement of yourself as a person, the cultivation of love in yourself, getting rid of shortcomings that should be your goals. Not a new meeting, not the return of the one who left.

Moreover, it is highly desirable abstain from any relationship for at least a year, similar to love ones - even chaste ones. Because otherwise the relationship will be built on an unreliable foundation. The first time after parting, self-esteem is underestimated. After some time of work on yourself, it can become overpriced. Both that, and another, hinders soberly to estimate the partner. In addition, the substitution effect is known, when we unconsciously look for a replacement for a partner who has left us. Relationships that begin to take shape ahead of time will be fragile.

So don't get hung up on the topic. love relationship! Don't worry about having nowhere to meet a good man! Everything will happen in due time. When you are ready to create a full-fledged family, a worthy person will appear. As soon as you become a princess, your prince will immediately rush on a white horse. Even if you sit at home all day due to illness, he will make a mistake with the door or phone number - and will come to you. And if you are not ready, then even with a huge circle of friends you will not be able to choose anyone.

If age leaves little hope for creating a new family, all the more, a person has one field of activity left - his soul. If there is someone to take care of, this is also a worthy task of life, but still improving yourself is more important. Since only loving person can truly care for others. Here is http://www.perejit.ru/main/theydid?id=237 - the story of a woman who lives worthily after a divorce in celibacy.

5. Do not recognize the right to be unhappy

Many of us, unconsciously for ourselves, in the state “I am poor, unhappy, no one loves me” feel more comfortable than in the state: “I was born for happiness, and it depends on me whether to be happy or not to be.” This is due to infantilism (childishness), the inability to overcome some stages of growing up. We do not want, as adults, to take responsibility for ourselves. And therefore, although we are afraid of trouble, when they come, we literally cling to them and do not want to let go.

The more infantile a person is, the longer he gets stuck in a state of experience. Just as at school he liked to lie in bed when he was ill, feel sorry for himself and accept the sympathy of others, so here he lies down in the bed of self-pity. Finally, it seems like a valid reason for self-pity has been found. And in this state after parting, a person, if desired, can stay for many years. But what's the point?

In fact, there is not a single valid reason for such relaxation. Adult, mentally healthy people never relieve themselves of their responsibility to themselves and other people. After all, we need other people, and ourselves. We need not only healthy and capable, but also strong, joyful, able to support and delight others.

Therefore, adults, mentally healthy people do not get stuck even in such a severe trauma as experiencing the death of a loved one. No one but our enemies needs our tears, physical and mental illness and suicide. All our near and far, living and dead, need us strong and joyful.

Therefore, our task is to rejoice. And not sometime later, when everything will work out, and we will create a family with one of the heirs of the British royal house. You need to rejoice right now. There is no good reason not to do this. We are alive, able to work, we can love, God loves us, and He has given us many abilities that it's time to use.

Good deeds are of particular importance in self-improvement. If the crisis helped you to identify in yourself a tendency to love addiction, low self-esteem, selfishness or self-absorption, doing good deeds is the best medicine for you. Only this should be a real http://www.pobedish.ru/main/samopoznanie?id=155, and not a deal based on the gratitude of people.

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Prayers for reconciliation with a loved one and the safety of relationships from any adversity

Moreover, one cannot do without God's help if the relationship is threatened by storms of witchcraft influence from the outside. It often happens that spiteful critics and envious people, as well as rivals, resort to the powers of magical witchcraft to destroy other people's feelings. You can protect yourself from such influence, without becoming a victim of the fall of witchcraft, by using strong rites and rituals associated with prayer to the Almighty, the Blessed Virgin Mary and the Holy Saints.

Mother of God - the patroness and intercessor of all lovers

Of course, reconciling with your soul mate is more difficult than quarreling. Now you have to make diligence in order to renew the relationship. But if you do everything, as the Orthodox tradition suggests, then the prayers will achieve their goal, and you will be reunited with the one for whom your heart aches and yearns.

Prayer for the softening of evil hearts.

A powerful ritual to pacify pride and return love

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Prayers of supplication to the Most Holy Theotokos

Auspicious days for prayers for deliverance from quarrels

If your quarrel is so strong that daily prayer fails to remove the quarrel, then choose an auspicious day for the ritual from the church calendar. On the days of great holidays, especially those dedicated to the Mother of God, the problem of spouses and a couple in love can be solved if you open your heart to God and pray for the gift of peace to two hearts.

Christmas, Epiphany and Easter.
All holidays dedicated to the Most Holy Theotokos: the Annunciation, the Nativity of the Virgin and the Assumption of the Virgin.
The Feast of the Intercession of the Most Holy Theotokos deserves special mention. This holiday is very auspicious for women. On this day, according to tradition, all requests and desires are fulfilled. The Mother of God especially favors married couples and hearts in love.

The days are not considered the most favorable: the Exaltation of Christ the Lord and the Beheading of John the Baptist. Many beliefs are associated with these days in folk memory. In order not to aggravate the problem, it is better not to address it in prayers on this day.

The ritual of liberation from witchcraft influence on quarreling people

Prayer from evil spirits

Prayer for Witchcraft

Psalms in defense against witchcraft spirits:

Psalm 6 - asking God for deliverance from witchcraft.
Psalm 8 - read for those who have suffered evil from demonic forces.
Psalm 45 - is read for the young, to whom the envious and reckless person interferes in creating a family.

And the prayer to Peter and Fevronia for the return of a loved one can heal a broken relationship, return the love of spouses if adversity has gathered over them.

Reconcile with your loved one through prayer

In Orthodox culture, there are many ways that work to save from quarrels, restore past relationships, give happiness and harmony. If your loved one really matters to you, you can’t “push around” your loved ones, try to control, impose your will and desires on him. Such behavior greatly “wounds” the male character. And there are two ways out: either he will look for attempts to get away from your "obsessive society", or he will slowly turn into a rag. In order to restore relations after quarrels, you are unlikely to “get off” with prayer alone. But if, after a sincere belief in the possibility of reconciliation, you still make every effort to restore harmony, the chances are much greater. If you decide to read prayers, a prayer to the Lord is the very first and most powerful. She asks for reconciliation, reconciliation, reconciliation is coming.

Prayer for the return of a loved one to the Lord. Text

Prayer to the saints to return a loved one

Did you have a big fight? If you need effective prayers, a prayer to the saints Peter and Fevronia will help you. The text of the prayer is as follows:

Prayer for reconciliation to the Lord. Text

Like other prayers, this prayer is highly effective. In fact, she even helps girls of a different religion and another religion.

Why is it important to reconcile after all conflicts?

For prayers to work, prayer must always come from a pure heart. You must passionately want to make peace with your loved one, because Christ himself bequeathed to us to forgive the sins of other people, to be tolerant of them. Yes, sometimes it may seem to you that only a man is to blame for your conflict. But in fact, in any quarrel, 2 people are always to blame. Perhaps you misbehaved. Perhaps they could not find the words to help and comfort. It is important for you to pay attention to the prayer for reconciliation, which "works" the same for 2 sides of the conflict, helps you understand yourself and your heart.

Prayer for reconciliation to the Lord

If you have been looking for proven prayers, this prayer will help bring joy and happiness back into your relationship. And everything will be very easy, simple and at ease. Quarrels are always a waste of energy.

Prayer for well-being and fidelity to the Matrona of Moscow. . Be kinder to your loved one and read prayers in his absence. Humble yourself: a wife must accept her husband as he is.

Prayer for heartache at parting, 3 prayers

After parting with a loved one, we experience heartache. In order to quickly appease her, one should pray to God's Pleasers. The soul will calm down, grief will subside.

Dear ones, you are afraid of the pain of loneliness.

And you are afraid that you will not be able to let go and stop loving.

What if no one else meets?

Parting with those who were sent down for testing, we meet a mutual devoted feeling.

Light 1 candle. Nearby place the icon of St. Nicholas the Wonderworker, Jesus Christ and the Most Holy Theotokos.

Try to calm down in humility.

Yes, you broke up, but the Lord will not allow the worst.

Remove the stone from the soul by repeatedly reading these prayer lines.

Wonderworker Nicholas, Defender and Savior. I am languishing from parting in my thoughts, I am terribly afraid of angering God. Mental pains do not allow sleep, loved ones forever betray. You help me to drive away sorrows, to accept faith with a strong prayer. May your will be done. Amen.

Holy Mother of God, Virgin Mary. Save me from parting, deliver me from mournful suffering. Let the pain in the soul quickly subside, and the heart will beat in joy. May your will be done. Amen.

Prayers from groaning must be said slowly, endlessly believing in the intercession of Jesus Christ.

Your train will never leave you

We are doomed to experience, to live everything that happens in our life. We may not agree, but one way or another, we will have to survive. Survive a divorce, breakup, separation.

Psychotherapists of patients in love do not even consult. This is a condition that is classified as a special form of psychotic disorder and therefore cannot be treated. Psychologists say: "You just have to go through it." That is, there are no psychotherapeutic approaches, techniques, medicines that can help resolve these issues.

with my parents good friend such a story happened. When he was 11-12 years old, his father began to go to a neighbor to "repair the tap". The faucet leaked very often. Almost every day he repaired it for two or even three hours. Repaired for two months. Such a very fastidious crane caught. One day he returned and said to his wife: "Ira, I'm leaving." - "Where?" - "I will now live with Any." And she let him go.

What does "let go" mean? It means letting go psychologically, internally, economically – on all levels. I asked her: “Irina Petrovna, how did you manage to do this?” She said: “This man made me happy for 15 whole years. And that's enough for me. If now it is important for him to be happy not in the way I understand, but in the way he understands and wants, so be it. I will be grateful to him for the rest of my life for what he has already given me.

It seems to me that sometimes love is about letting go of a person: not getting in, not breaking in, not getting into his life with your manipulations. Just leave the person alone. Real love knows how to let go. Sometimes girls say: “Listen, you got me with your love. Get away from me, please." And in leaving a person alone, your love can manifest itself. From the apostle Paul we know that love does not seek its own. Therefore, let go.

If the image of this person haunts us, haunts us, feelings cloud the mind, we once again mentally thank him and let him go. We just say to ourselves: “Thank you very much for being in my life. I'm letting you go." We also thank God for this situation and release the person. Gratitude has a powerful healing power.

If a person has already left our life, and we all decide “will he return or not return?”, “how to return?”, “maybe try to talk again?”, then most likely we love our own feeling about the person, not himself. This falling in love is a disease, and not only of the soul, but also of the spirit.

There was a case when I had to advise a man from whom a girl left. He was on the verge of a very serious spiritual crisis, he even grumbled at God. It took us a long time to learn to let go. I told him a story about how a writer once caught a wild coyote and put him on a chain. The coyote rushed towards the forest for a long time, tried to break the chain with a run, rubbed his neck with a collar until it bled. Such is the property of his breed, which does not agree with lack of freedom. And the writer understood: if you love, let him go. If this coyote is truly yours, it will come back to you. And if not yours, he will never be happy with you.

If, however, I am “stuck” on the pain and tragedy of a breakup, as on some kind of obsession, it is necessary, first of all, to start praying with all my heart to God, Whom we are called to love with all our hearts, to switch with an effort of will and join in life “here and now”, to get out of state of obsession. The most dangerous thing in this state is to look for another “object” in order to switch to the intensity of feelings. When the "nerve of falling in love" is highly inflamed, don't rush to look for "love" in someone else. Relax, cool down a little, come back to normal. If the image of another person is still alive in the heart, a new love will be an attempt to transfer feelings regarding the previous partner to a new person. There are many such anecdotes about this, such as the fact that a man, being with one woman, in a fit of passion calls the name of another. Similar stories are about just that: about an unconscious attempt to compensate for the loss with a new passion. At the same time, we act dishonestly, first of all, in relation to a new partner.

There are unconstructive motives for marriage. One of them is the critical age consideration. A person thinks: "Already over 30, you need to somehow try to get married (or get married)." It's like coming to the Yaroslavsky railway station at 23.30 and jumping on the first train that comes across, because "You have to go somewhere." Or maybe you're not there at all?

It is very important to talk with God about the intended candidate for life partners about what is happening to us, to ask Him how He views this marriage. You can stand before God, just think out loud: “Lord, this is the situation. You see this person. You see what's going on in my heart right now. I know that from You comes good for my life. I want to hear what you want to tell me. I want to know Your will regarding this situation.”

Nobody listens better, nobody understands better. And no one will answer better, no one will give more prudent advice than Jesus Christ. We can pour out to him the petitions of our hearts. We can complain to Him when we feel bad and ask to return to us the one who is so dear to us. But every Christian knows that it is still better to end with the words “Thy will be done.” Trusting God is that we need to be sure that this is exactly what His will is.

If I am sure that my God is not some kind of wicked one who forbids everything, if I understand in my heart that He is Love, then I trust him with all the circumstances of my life, all situations, all people. Many people have God with the name “No”. And if God is a loving Father, then I just say: “Father, open, show! I want to know what is Your will. I am ready to trust you and learn from you from this situation.” And if we trust God, then when the Father takes away our favorite toy, we unclench our fists, realizing that God understands better what we need now.

At the same time, we understand that only God will heal our feelings, help us survive. He can knock, hint, deprive us of what turned out to be an idol for us, but He cannot force us to do something, since He created us free.

Prayers for reconciliation with a loved one and the safety of relationships from any adversity

Moreover, one cannot do without God's help if the relationship is threatened by storms of witchcraft influence from the outside. It often happens that spiteful critics and envious people, as well as rivals, resort to the powers of magical witchcraft to destroy other people's feelings. You can protect yourself from such influence, without becoming a victim of the fall of witchcraft, by using strong rites and rituals associated with prayer to the Almighty, the Blessed Virgin Mary and the Holy Saints.

Mother of God - the patroness and intercessor of all lovers

Prayer for the softening of evil hearts.

A powerful ritual to pacify pride and return love

Important! Nominal icons are bought for those names that were given to you at baptism. Very often, a worldly name diverges from a baptized one, since modern names often diverge from the holy calendar, and baptize exclusively according to the holy calendar.

Prayers of supplication to the Most Holy Theotokos

Auspicious days for prayers for deliverance from quarrels

Christmas, Epiphany and Easter.
All holidays dedicated to the Most Holy Theotokos: the Annunciation, the Nativity of the Virgin and the Assumption of the Virgin.
The Feast of the Intercession of the Most Holy Theotokos deserves special mention. This holiday is very auspicious for women. On this day, according to tradition, all requests and desires are fulfilled. The Mother of God especially favors married couples and hearts in love.

The ritual of liberation from witchcraft influence on quarreling people

Prayer from evil spirits

Prayer for Witchcraft

Psalms in defense against witchcraft spirits:

Psalm 6 - asking God for deliverance from witchcraft.
Psalm 8 - read for those who have suffered evil from demonic forces.
Psalm 45 - is read for the young, to whom the envious and reckless person interferes in creating a family.

And the prayer to Peter and Fevronia for the return of a loved one can heal a broken relationship, return the love of spouses if adversity has gathered over them.

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What we think about will happen, ... what we send into the world, then it will return to us ...

HOW TO SURVIVE THE PARTING.

If the choice is right, it becomes the beginning of a new, better life, a truer understanding of love. It was the separation that helped a huge number of people to become adults, loving and happy people.

This article is the quintessence of our methodology.

The article does not replace other articles, but will help you structure and better understand the material.

Theoretically, it is possible that after some time both of you will change, and a meeting of new you may occur, and you will be able to create new, more harmonious relationships.

But the people you are now couldn't be together. The path you were on has come to this point. And at this point it ended. The person you are now must recognize and accept this.

If you have even a little love for this person, recognize his right to be free. Release and bless him.

Say to yourself, addressing this person: “I let you go! Bless you!"

The cessation of attempts to return a person, the cessation of hopes for his return is an absolutely necessary condition for the successful experience of parting. Some cling to a person for months and years. And as long as they cling, they suffer, they get stuck in this state.

And believe that your clinging does not increase the love and respect for you of the one you cling to, but quite the contrary.

2. Overcome intrusive thoughts.

Relatively speaking, 10% of our suffering is from the situation itself, from the inability to see a loved one, to be with him, etc., 90% are from these false thoughts. So, as soon as we overcome these thoughts, we will stop suffering. And you can overcome obsessive thoughts quickly enough.

And what about the fact that just at that moment he will put a bullet in your back?

The only way to defeat false thoughts is to oppose them with true, kind thoughts, clothed in the power of prayer.

To do this, it is necessary, first of all, to constantly control what kind of thought torments you. That's what I call looking the enemy in the face.

Second, to oppose this thought with an appropriate prayer. That is, a prayer, the meaning of which is opposite to the thought that torments at the moment. Three or four short prayers are enough to “deal with” most of the obsessive thoughts in a breakup situation.

If you are tormented by thoughts of self-pity, thoughts of despondency, grumbling or fear.

Prayers that are used against such thoughts:

“Glory to God for everything!”, “Thy will for everything. Let it be as You please!”

If you are tormented by thoughts about the person with whom we are parting, or about the one who “took away” this person.

If we are tormented by the thought of any person, we kill it with a simple prayer: “Lord, bless this person!”. We invest in this prayer the desire for good to a person.

If you are tormented by aggressive thoughts addressed to yourself.

False thoughts: “It’s impossible to love someone like you, you are a loser”, “You are to blame for everything, if only you hadn’t made that mistake!”

Prayer: Praise God for everything! If they are really guilty of something: “Lord, have mercy!”, “Lord, forgive!”.

Penitential prayers: “Lord, have mercy!”, “Lord, forgive!” are pronounced without strain, in an even, impassive tone. If we start acting, we ourselves will not notice how, instead of repentance, we will concentrate on despondency and self-pity: “Oh, how unfortunate I am, have pity on me!”. This will only cause harm. When a person truly repents, he firmly believes that God forgives him, and every minute it is easier for him.

I emphasize: the tone of all prayers must be even, no matter what storm rages within us!

There are a few more rules to keep in mind when praying.

Firstly, you need to control your attitude towards the One to whom you pray. Remember that God does not owe you anything. He is not to blame for the fact that you are now ill. But you, most likely, are largely to blame before Him. Therefore, pray humbly. Only humble prayer achieves the goal. Prayer, in the depths of which there is an offense against God or an impudent demand, will not give anything.

Secondly, believe that you are heard, you can be helped and will certainly be helped. God is omnipotent, He created this world out of nothing. God hears your every word (which you yourself hear), and not a single word of yours is wasted.

Thirdly, it is desirable to know as well as possible the One to whom you are praying. Some people think that God is a "higher mind". But under the definition of "higher intelligence" is quite suitable and Satan. Therefore, if you are close to Christianity, try reading the Gospel to find out what kind of God He is. Just do not visualize God during prayer - this is very dangerous. (Looking at the icon of Jesus Christ does not mean presenting God in front of you, it is safe.)

Therefore - do not be lazy, do not retreat, do not give up! Fight with all your might!

3. Forgive yourself and the other person.

Common problems in a breakup situation are positions of resentment towards the other person or blaming oneself. Both positions prevent us from finally recovering.

Another person may be guilty of something before us. However, you need to forgive him, for two reasons.

Firstly, we do not know exactly why it happened, we do not know the degree of our guilt. The mistakes of one of the two can be obvious (drunkenness, cruelty, betrayal, consumer attitude on a material level), and the other is hidden (consumer attitude on a spiritual level, jealousy, disrespect, emancipation). However, the former may be a consequence of the latter. That is why they say that both are always to blame. Each of the two always has their own truth. And you, knowing only your own truth, but not knowing the truth of another, cannot judge him.

Secondly, your resentment binds you to this man, as shackles bind two convicts. By cutting the chain of resentment, you release not only him, but also yourself. And each of you takes with you your piece of the chain - your share of responsibility.

If the obsessive thought of resentment continues to haunt you, use the weapons of prayer described above: "God bless him!"

If we blame ourselves, we need to sort out our feelings and separate the rational from the irrational.

Rational - these are the facts of your specific sins: betrayal, rudeness, deceit, jealousy, the wife's desire to rise above her husband, etc.

The irrational is just an inferiority complex, behind which are not facts, but beliefs: “I am bad”, “I am no good”, “I am not worthy of love”, etc.

The irrational is an obsessive false thought. She is cured by prayer and good deeds. But above all - improving relations with parents.

4. Benefit, work on yourself.

A common truth is known: any difficult situation, any crisis is not a “misfortune”, but a test. A test is an opportunity sent down to us from above, accurately calculated for our needs and abilities, to grow, to take a step towards personal perfection and a better life. And the opportunity to grow is so important and valuable for us that it would be strange to call it a misfortune. As we grow up, we become happier.

So the next lesson will be tougher.

To pass the test, you must first of all humble yourself. When you and I, overcoming the desire to lose heart, feel sorry for ourselves and grumble, prayed "Glory to Thee, Lord!"- this was the school of humility. Thanks to this school, we will not be so upset during the next trials. Humility makes us stronger and more patient. Humility is our most valuable "income" from any trial.

Now that the acute stage of the crisis has passed, it is time to soberly analyze the reasons for what happened.

Firstly, what were the components of your relationship, how much love was in them, how much addiction, how much physiological passion? From your side, from your partner's side.

Secondly, what were the true goals of the relationship - family, pleasure, mercantile calculation? From your side, from your partner's side. To what extent these goals are worthy of you, do you need such goals?

Thirdly, if the goal was worthy (a real family), then how suitable were you and this person for each other and for this goal? Could this goal be achieved with this person? And did you know him enough to allow the degree of intimacy that you allowed? And what kind of person can achieve this goal? And what kind of person is best for you? What qualities do you lack in order to successfully achieve this goal? Are you an adult or an addict? What harmful and useful habits did you take away from your parental family and from the relationships that preceded these relationships?

Fourth If both the goal was worthy and the people worthy of the goal, what mistakes did you make in the process of achieving these goals? What should you do to get better results?

Such work on yourself will make you a different person.

It is very important at this stage to set the right goals for the next period of life. It is the improvement of yourself as a person, the cultivation of love in yourself, getting rid of shortcomings that should be your goals. Not a new meeting, not the return of the one who left.

Moreover, it is highly desirable to abstain for at least a year from any relationship that looks like love - even chaste ones. Because otherwise the relationship will be built on an unreliable foundation.

The first time after parting, self-esteem is underestimated. After some time of work on yourself, it can become overpriced. Both that, and another, hinders soberly to estimate the partner. In addition, the substitution effect is known, when we unconsciously look for a replacement for a partner who has left us.

Relationships that begin to take shape ahead of time will be fragile.

Therefore, do not go in cycles in the topic of love relationships! Do not worry about the fact that you have nowhere to meet a good person! Everything will happen in due time.

When you are ready to create a full-fledged family, a worthy person will appear. As soon as you become a princess, your prince will immediately rush on a white horse. Even if you sit at home all day due to illness, he will make a mistake with the door or phone number - and will come to you. And if you are not ready, then even with a huge circle of friends you will not be able to choose anyone.

If age leaves little hope for creating a new family, all the more, a person has one field of activity left - his soul. If there is someone to take care of, this is also a worthy task of life, but still improving yourself is more important. Because only a loving person can truly care for others.

5. Do not recognize the right to be unhappy.

This is due to infantilism (childishness), the inability to overcome some stages of growing up. We do not want, as adults, to take responsibility for ourselves. And therefore, although we are afraid of trouble, when they come, we literally cling to them and do not want to let go.

Good deeds are of particular importance in self-improvement. If the crisis helped you to identify in yourself a tendency to love addiction, low self-esteem, selfishness or self-absorption, doing good deeds is the best medicine for you. Only this should be a real good deed, and not a deal based on the gratitude of people.

Short prayers in a situation of parting:

Short prayers are repeated many times until we feel better. Their meaning, as a rule, is the opposite of the evil feeling that torments us, so prayer requires an effort on oneself.

If you do not have a prayer book, you should purchase it as soon as possible. There are other suitable prayers and necessary prayer rules.

How to pray to forgive a person or get rid of thoughts about him?

Why is she so effective? As you know, obsessive thoughts do not arise in our head on their own, but are imposed on us. evil spirits. Their goal is to torment us and lead us to new sins. As soon as we begin to pray: “Lord, bless him,” the person we are praying for immediately begins to receive spiritual benefit, because NOT A SINGLE WORD of our prayers goes to waste, does not go unnoticed by God. And any benefit to anyone is not included in the plans of demons. And so they stop attacking you with these thoughts. Try it and see!

Defeat despondency, self-pity, unwillingness to live:

“Glory to you, Lord, I will accept what is worthy according to my deeds!”

“Virgin Mother of God, rejoice, blessed Mary, the Lord is with you, blessed are you in women and blessed is the fruit of your womb, as if you gave birth to our souls as the Savior!”

Express feelings of guilt (prayers of repentance):

“Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me a sinner!” (Jesus Prayer).

“My Queen Preblagaya, my hope to the Theotokos, heal the spiritual and bodily wounds (the name of the person) inflicted by my sins. I entrust (the name of the person) entirely to my Lord Jesus Christ and Yours, Most Pure, maternal protection. Amen."

The request is made like this:

“Lord, if you want us to be together, help!”.

“But let it be not as I want, but as You please!”

Prayer for heartache when parting:

After parting with a loved one, we experience heartache. In order to quickly appease her, one should pray to God's Pleasers. The soul will calm down, grief will subside.

And you are afraid that you will not be able to let go and stop loving.

What if no one else meets?

Parting with those who were sent down for testing, we meet a mutual devoted feeling.

Light 1 candle. Nearby place the icon of St. Nicholas the Wonderworker, Jesus Christ and the Most Holy Theotokos.

Try to calm down in humility.

Yes, you broke up, but the Lord will not allow the worst.

Remove the stone from the soul by repeatedly reading these prayer lines.

1., Wonderworker Nicholas, Protector and Savior. I am languishing from parting in my thoughts, I am terribly afraid of angering God. Mental pains do not allow sleep, loved ones forever betray. You help me to drive away sorrows, to accept faith with a strong prayer. May your will be done. Amen."

2. Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God. In desperate crying, my soul ached, I again got sick of believing in you. The will is suppressed by mournful separation, it seems to me that life is not a blessing, but a torment. Heal me in righteous anger, led me to live according to the Most High laws. May it be so. Amen."

3., Holy Mother of God, Virgin Mary. Save me from parting, deliver me from mournful suffering. Let the pain in the soul quickly subside, and the heart will beat in joy. May your will be done. Amen."

Prayers from groaning must be said slowly, endlessly believing in the intercession of Jesus Christ.

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Religious reading: parting prayer to help our readers.

How to pray to get over a breakup, divorce

(If you don't know how to pray)

Here we have tried to talk about the main points that must be taken into account so that your prayers will be beneficial. But if you want to learn how to pray really well, the best way to do it is our online course The Art of Personal Prayer.

1. Remember who the God you are praying to is.

For a non-church person, God is, as a rule, something abstract, "a higher mind." But in reality, reason is not the main quality of God. One preacher remarked that Satan fit the definition of "higher intelligence." And the main quality of God is LOVE. Therefore, in order not to “mistake the address” of your prayers, you must try to learn as much as possible about the earthly life of our Lord Jesus Christ. The best source for this is the gospel.

You are a creation of God, loved by the Creator. Endowed immortal soul which is dearer than the entire material world. But you, like all people, are a creature that has gone astray, makes mistakes, and is unable to even pray to Him correctly without God's help. Unable to bring anything good into this world without the help of the Father. Realize your sinfulness, poverty and ask God to help you pray.

You cannot deceive God. You cannot give anything to God. The only thing He wants from you is repentance and a sincere intention to improve.

It's very hard for you. But God is not to blame. He did something for you that is hard to imagine - He allowed people to crucify Himself on the cross. Therefore, do not grumble, do not feel sorry for yourself. Ask God not dejectedly and not demandingly, in both - pride. He Himself wants to give everything that you need, all that is required of you is humility. That is, the readiness to accept any will of God with confidence, the consciousness that it is good for us.

Praying without faith in the fulfillment of what is asked is useless. If you pray with faith, not a single word of prayer is wasted. It is as easy for God to fulfill every word of your prayer as it is for you to say it. If faith is still small, ask the Father for faith.

5. For God to listen to you, you obey Him.

Christ dislikes any of our evil. Our evil is His cross wounds. Therefore, if we do not try to be kind, to fulfill His commandments, our requests will be unjustified arrogance. And especially we must get rid of all evil before the prayer itself and at its beginning. If we are angry with a person, forgive. If we grumble at God, fate - humble ourselves. Get rid of everything that bothers your conscience. And we will immediately feel how our prayer grows wings.

6. God can be asked for anything that is definitely good.

If we ask for something that may not be pleasing to God (and therefore not useful to us), then each request must end with the words “But let it be not as I want, but as You please.” But if you only ask for such things, your prayers will do you little good.

7. Be respectful.

If you were to attend a meeting with the president of your country or some other influential person, chances are you would be respectful. During prayer, you communicate with the One who is immeasurably more influential than any earthly ruler. Therefore, if you are praying in solitude, you need to stand reverently. If you are in public, just avoid vulgar, too free positions, and be respectful within yourself.

8. When praying, do not intentionally draw visual images of God in front of you.

This is dangerous. (Looking at the icon of Jesus Christ does not mean presenting God in front of you.)

Long prayers, prayer rules, are good when there is no pain expressed by a certain thought. If there is such a hurting thought, it will distract you from the words of the prayer. Therefore, in this case it is better to pray with short prayers directed against this thought. Almost every painful thought is a lie thrown at you by demons, and only with God's help you can defeat her.

(Here are some short prayers for specific purposes.)

10. Should prayer be emotional?

We pray with our hearts. If you are praying out loud, avoid paying attention to your voice, intonation. Otherwise, your prayer will be heard only by you. Strange for beginners, monotonous reading, accepted in the Church, is used to direct your message, your power to a higher, spiritual level. Soon you will clearly feel the difference in the power of prayer between these two ways - acting and spiritual, superficial and deep. Silent reading should also avoid this error.

At least until you get better. In a breakup situation, the pain can be so persistent that you have to pray almost continuously, if circumstances permit.

12. How do you judge if you are praying correctly?

The fruits of correct prayer are peace of mind, peace of mind for one's future, a kind attitude towards everyone, gratitude to God. If prayer does not bring you this, then you are doing something wrong. Read more about God and Prayer, for example, on the John website.

The main problem in a breakup situation is obsessive thoughts. by the most effective tool to combat such thoughts are short prayers. Short prayers are repeated many times until we feel better. Their meaning, as a rule, is the opposite of the evil feeling that torments us, so prayer requires an effort on oneself.

(St. Ambrose of Optina, based on the psalms) The psalms were written by the king and the prophet David, the one who, while still an unknown youth, defeated the giant Goliath. Psalms of David - the most read Orthodox part Old Testament. There is also a Russian translation of them, but usually they are read in Slavonic. To read them, it is not necessary to know the Slavic language.

(St. Ambrose of Optina, based on psalms)

According to the book "On Heron Paisios" by Hieromonk Christodoulos, Holy Mount Athos, 1994.

The image of Jesus Christ, according to some of His icons.

Anthony, Metropolitan of Sourozh

The experience of separation is similar to the experience of death for us. How to experience it, how to pray while doing it - and here we must learn from Christ. He endured the greatest pain and even death for us. Let us hear from Metropolitan Anthony of Sourozh about how the Savior prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane, awaiting His grievous death.

Prayer for heartache at parting, 3 prayers

After parting with a loved one, we experience heartache. In order to quickly appease her, one should pray to God's Pleasers. The soul will calm down, grief will subside.

Dear ones, you are afraid of the pain of loneliness.

And you are afraid that you will not be able to let go and stop loving.

What if no one else meets?

Parting with those who were sent down for testing, we meet a mutual devoted feeling.

Light 1 candle. Nearby place the icon of St. Nicholas the Wonderworker, Jesus Christ and the Most Holy Theotokos.

Try to calm down in humility.

Yes, you broke up, but the Lord will not allow the worst.

Remove the stone from the soul by repeatedly reading these prayer lines.

Wonderworker Nicholas, Defender and Savior. I am languishing from parting in my thoughts, I am terribly afraid of angering God. Mental pains do not allow sleep, loved ones forever betray. You help me to drive away sorrows, to accept faith with a strong prayer. May your will be done. Amen.

Holy Mother of God, Virgin Mary. Save me from parting, deliver me from mournful suffering. Let the pain in the soul quickly subside, and the heart will beat in joy. May your will be done. Amen.

Prayers from groaning must be said slowly, endlessly believing in the intercession of Jesus Christ.

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